Take your time while shopping for a pole. I can't stress that enough. If you have any questions, stop by any or all of the forums listed to get honest opinions :) It's better to wait & get the best pole for your particular needs then to go for the cheaper option & be unhappy.
You may want to check out the following dance pole guide complied by the girls (& boys) of the Vertical Dance Forum:
X-Pole (There is a new X-Pole knock-off called XTreme--read my blog explaining why to avoid it!)
How Cool (Shoes, Lingerie, Costumes, & Generally Cool Shit!)
We Love Colors (Fishnets, etc.)
The Aesthetik (Goth Clothing & Shoes)
Pin up Girl Clothing (Retro, Rockabilly,Vintage, etc)
Chainmail & More (Might scratch the pole but you may be able to work with it!)